MY thoughts/ checklist

MY thoughts/ checklist on bein in a REAL relationship or goin to the next step the big “M” word

Figure out what pushes the other person’s buttons n STOP doin those things
Stay on the same level as much as possible
Communicate about EVERYTHING… from how the other make u feel (good or bad) to religion to sex to future plans like KIDS, life changes (if that’s what u both want)
Don’t settle for less then what u deserve
Don’t be selfish
Know what the other considerate a date… be on the same page… if u wanna stay at home n cook n they wanna go to a fancy dinner then… ummmm
Do appreciate the lil good things more than the lil negatives
Don’t jump into somethin u arent strong enuff to handle
The more u make the SAME “mistakes” the harder it is for u to get outta ur bad ways
Compliment/criticism don’t always receive well so make sure u are bein understood… n bein understandin
Trusting one other 99.9%
Don’t lash out on ur mate when they are bein honest… it was hard enuff for them to tell u the truth
Don’t let ur insecurities take over… n DON’T expect their reassurance to make u feel great if u don’t think so also (if u think u ugly no matter what he says u will always think u are ugly maybe even think he lyin to make u happy)
Clearly agree on what is cheating... Not everyone is on the same page when it comes to that… u THINK its clean cut but its now
Clearly explain things u aren’t strong enuff to handle… everyone has weakness… don’t be afraid to let ur partner know urs… and once them “weaknesses” are out don’t use it against one another
I believe its great to set a “what if” plan… what if u all lose ur job, what if one of ur parents have to move in, what if one gets ill, what if one dies, when if ever should the other one start datin (don’t want ur mate feeling guilty about things AFTER u already past)
Don’t let sex rule ur relationship but don’t sleep on it nether… remember lack of passionate and or wild sex can drive ur partner or urself to cheat… don’t be afraid to tell the other person what u like n how u like it
Know what u want n make it clear ya both on the same page on what ya expect
Don’t abuse each other… or expect the other one to always be around if u don’t treat them right
Talk about things that can be shared with love ones n things that should stay among u two
Listen listen listen…UNDERSTAND UNDERSTAND UNDERSTAND n if u don’t then ask questions
b4 makin any big moves... movin in together, havin kids, gettin married.... come out with any lies or need to know things... that can effect ur future